why is it so hard to find a man who will honestly pursue a lady? key word: honestly

pursuit, not because he cannot have the girl, but because he needs her. and because she needs him just as desperately. i’m talking about pursuit of the depths of her soul, about pursuing her even when she’s being too clingy or needy or when she calls too much or wants to be around you 90% of her time. pursue her even more fervently. even more desperately. dishonest pursuit… it’s kind of like, i want you until you want me, then i don’t want you anymore. that isn’t honest pursuit. that kind of pursuit gives up and is childish and is no where to be found when things don’t seem to go their way.

i once heard it said that God created women to reflect himself. the way we long for relationships with those around us, the way we are dying to get just a little bit of your time and attention and energy. the way we long to be pursued in the same manner we are pursuing others. women need relationships with others, we need to be able to talk, or just hear your voice talk to us about God or the universe or even how sucky your day went. we just want to be honestly pursued. we don’t want to be a burden, we don’t want to dampen your spirit, we want to be a light, a breather, a breath of fresh air in a hectic life.

men seem to immediately draw away from the women who pursue them in honesty. the women who just want to be near them, be in the same room with them, touch their hand…

i know, there are some difficult women to please out there, but women like myself, and so many more out there… it’s so simple. we just want you. we don’t want to take up all of your time.. we just want to be brought along on your journey, and to help you through the bumps you run into. we are not running around hooking up with every man that happens to pass by, but we’ve waited, and are waiting, for the one man who choses to accept our simple pleas of simple moments in each other’s presence. for the one who woo’s us, and grasps our heart in such an extreme way we cannot bare to breathe. for the man who can cause butterflies in our stomach just by saying “i’m thinking about you” or “hey there beautiful”. i know that man is out there. the one who will take away my loneliness and help me through my days of darkness. the man that will allow me to take away his loneliness and help him through his days of darkness.

i’m waiting.
i’ll be waiting until he arrives.
although i’m not in any rush, i do wish he’d hurry up a tad
the dark and lonely days are becoming harder to bare.

yes, i’m waiting for you.